I can tell you how I plan to go from laid off to employed in four words:
Do things, tell people.
I wish that I came up with that pithy, four-word summary, but I didn’t; Carl Lange did.It’s the title of his blog post from the early 2010s, where he describes that line as “the only things you need to do to be successful.”
(And in the same blog post, he defines successful as “‘taking advantage of personally interesting opportunities,’ but I think that this mantra works for success in terms of money also.”)
So let me tell you about the more interesting things I’m doing over the next two weeks…
Monday, February 12: Interview with Tampa Bay Business Journal
Thursday, February 15: Recording with Jorge Arango for his podcast, The Informed Life
On Thursday, I’ll be recording a podcast episode with author and information architect Jorge Arango for his podcast, The Informed Life. You get three guesses as to what the topic will be (hint: getting laid off).
Monday, February 19: Flying to Austin, Texas
On Monday, February 19 at 6:50 a.m., my plane is to board a Southwest Airlines jet, find a window seat somewhere in the last five rows, fall asleep before takeoff, and wake up in Austin, Texas. Then I will find a place to set up my computer and make last-minute updates to a presentation that I will give on the following day…
Tuesday, February 20 – Wednesday, February 21: Speaking at and attending the Civo Navigate conference in Austin
With my presentation done and out of the way, I will proceed to enjoy the rest of the day and the day after by attending the conference, hitting the after-parties, enjoying bourbon and Shiner Bock, and eating some barbecue.
Thursday, February 22: Hanging out in Austin until my evening flight home
My flight home doesn’t take off until 7:15 p.m. on Thursday, February 22, which will give me most of the day to hang out in Austin. I’m sure I’ll be able to find something to do, but if you’re in the area and want to catch up, let me know!
It’s February 10, 2024, the start of a new lunar new year. Happy new year, or as they say in Manadarin: 新年好 (shin nyan how, or “new year goodness”)!
The Chinese calendar system rotates through the 12 animals in the Chinese zodiac and separately through what the ancient Chinese called the 5 aspects of qi (life energy) or elements: Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal, and Water. In this system, the current year’s animal is the dragon and the current year’s element is Wood, making this year the Year of the Wood Dragon.
In 오방색 (Obangsaek), the traditional spectrum of traditional Korean colors — blue, red, yellow, white, and black — are associated with the 5 elements as follows:
Color
Element
Blue
Wood
Red
Fire
Yellow
Earth
White
Metal
Black
Water
In the Korean system, this is the Year of the Blue Dragon. Since blue is my favorite color, I prefer to use “Blue Dragon” over “Wood Dragon.”
As the only mythical and magical animal in the Chinese zodiac, the Dragon is considered to be the most auspicious, most powerful of them all. The Dragon is associated with power, leadership, strength, good luck, wisdom, and prosperity. It is considered to be celestial and divine, with the ability to control elements such as wind and water. A Dragon year is one filled with the promise of opportunities and advancements.
The element of Wood is considered to be the most human, and is associated with growth, flourishing, and creativity. It is related to the season of Spring, which associates it with achievement, looking forward, expansion, and decision-making.
The Wood Dragon year is believed to cultivate progress and abundance, making it an ideal time to embark on new projects. This year is particularly favourable for innovative minds and problem solvers, as it offers stability in business operations and an energetic drive for creative ideas. Additionally, it presents a wonderful opportunity for individuals to pursue their dreams, express their ideas, and expand their horizons.
Remember this paragraph! I’m going to call back to it in a moment!
You’d read this far, and you might already be asking: “You’re not really into this Chinese horoscope stuff, are you, Joey?”
As a system for predicting what will happen, no.
But as a handy starting point for a new journey, since it’s a new year, the traditional time for new beginnings and new ventures? As the perfect time to write some new resolutions? As an inspiration for a personal theme for the next 12 months? As a way to frame the way I’ll approach things for the next little while? As a lens through which I will see what’s happening around me and respond accordingly?
What if you viewed your layoff not as a catastrophe, but as the catalyst for embarking on a new project? A project that required creativity and problem solving in business? An opportunity to pursue a dream, express your ideas, and expand your horizons?
Use this to reframe your situation. Think of it this way: THIS IS YOUR YEAR.
🐲🐉 Happy New Year! 🐉🐲
I’ll close with a little musical inspiration: This Will Be Our Year, by OK Go:
A recent Tweet (or X-crement, or whatever they’re calling posts on that platform) from Sesame Street’s Elmo got way more attention than it would have in less stressful times:
It’s not every day that a social media post from a cutesy character from a children’s show sparks a discussion on mental health, but these are the times we live in.
And I “get” it — as I write this, it’s been only a week since I and 400 co-workers were laid off, and I’m still feeling a lingering apprehension. As I’ve written before, this is my fifth layoff, so while the experience is unsettling, I at least have come up with ways to deal with it. I’ve talked with people facing this for the first time, and they’re stunned by the combination of feelings that come with it: shock, sadness, anxiety, fear, and probably worst of all, betrayal.
If you’ve been laid off…
Let me remind you of an important truth: if you’ve been laid off, it’s okay to not be okay.
There’s a thing called the Life Events Inventory (LEI), which is a ranked list of stressful life moments devised by the research psychologists Raymond Cochrane and Alex Robertson in a paper they published in the early 1970s. An updated version of the LEI is still used today.
Losing your job is the 7th most stressful item on the LEI. To get a sense of just how stressful it is, it ranks higher than finding out your partner cheated on you (14), a close friend dying (13), an immediate family member going to jail (11), and even divorce (9, but I would disagree, as mine damn near killed me).
Let me drive home the point by listing the LEI top ten:
The other thing you should know is that the effects of a layoff linger. Here’s the key paragraph from a 2013 Wall Street Journal article titled After Divorce or Job Loss Comes the Good Identity Crisis (with added emphasis from me):
Experts say most people should give themselves a good two years to recover from an emotional trauma such as a breakup or the loss of a job. And if you were blindsided by the event—your spouse left abruptly, you were fired unexpectedly—it could take longer.
A layoff isn’t something that you can easily shrug off, and you shouldn’t feel shame for feeling the way you do. You need to acknowledge that being laid off is one of modern life’s most stressful situations, and then do the things to help you deal with that stress.
If you haven’t been laid off…
If you haven’t been laid off, but you know someone who’s been laid off, please reach out to them and ask how they’re doing. If you’re in a position to offer help, do so, but even the act of checking in is a great help.
It’s nice to get congratulatory messages when things are going particularly well, but you’ll find that what really makes an impact and what you really remember are the friends who reached out to you when things were rough. Those people’s names are etched forever in my heart, and they have my eternal gratitude. Be one of those people for someone.
I’ll close with the advice of Florida’s own “Tommy the Tech Recruiter,” who posted this excellent suggestion on LinkedIn:
If you know someone who is on the job search…
No, no they’re not okay. Especially in these times. They are tired. Exhausted. Frustrated. Scared.
Each passing day brings a rollercoaster of emotions. Each rejection or time they never hear anything back leaves them questioning or doubting themselves.
It’s a soul crushing process.
If you are on a job search… I am here for you and making it my mission to help shorten how long that search takes.
And if you see someone who was just laid off or has that green banner, comment on their posts for visibility. Share it. Leave a kind and uplifting comment or send them a DM of support.
April 2017 from the RFID chip/label company SMARTRAC, when the project I worked on was canceled.
April 2020 from the mobile CMS company Lilypad, as a result of the COVID-19 pandemic.
…and the most recent one — February 1, 2024 from the identity management company Okta, in a 7% reduction of staff.
Because this isn’t my first rodeo — and because there are a lot of people in the same situation — I’m putting together a series of articles that I hope you’ll find helpful and useful.
I knew layoffs were coming
I knew there was a chance that layoffs would be announced on February 1st. For weeks, there’d been a lot of talk on Blind’s discussion board for my now-former employer on that topic and specifying that date.
The Blind app will kill your soul if you use it too often. It’s an ugly agglomeration of late-stage capitalist cynicism, career despair, envy-inducing discussions of total compensation, and occasionally a place for sexually frustrated tech bros to vent.
But like that lemonade they’ve been serving at Panera, while it’s toxic if you consume the full serving, Blind is useful for keeping you awake and aware if you keep your dosage small. As nasty as its content can get, if you really want to get a sense of what’s going on in the business world or get the inside scoop on what it’s like inside a given company, you should download Blind and peruse it occasionally.
Because I’d been following the discussion about my now-former on Blind, I wasn’t completely (ahem) blindsided by the layoff announcement on Thursday. While some predictions and analyses on Blind turn out to be wrong, most of the posts about my now-former employer have been spot-on. So I took the rumors seriously.
In anticipation of possible upcoming layoffs, I’d been doing a little extra work — writing extra articles (including one that got a lot of praise from the security awareness group), updating old ones, doing additional reviews of my teammates’ articles, writing a “state of mobile development” report, and even recording four videos in a week.
It’s a shame all that extra effort was wasted.
The “first worst” 15 minutes
On Thursday, February 1st at 8:27 a.m., an ominous email was sent to everyone who worked at my now-former employer. Here’s the key part of the email:
If you work in the US, you will receive an email in the next 15 minutes notifying you if your role is impacted or not. If your role is impacted, your leadership will schedule a meeting this morning to discuss next steps. For employees outside the US, the notification process may be different due to local laws and practices.
I’ve been in the game long enough to know that the worst possible thing to do would be to sit at the computer and constantly refresh the Gmail screen. I got up from my desk, set a 15-minute timer on my phone, and walked away to get some coffee.
There was a new email, timestamped 8:37 a.m. — ten minutes after the ominous email. It started with this:
Today, [my now-former employer] made the decision to eliminate a number of positions across multiple organizations. Unfortunately, your position has been eliminated as part of this reduction.
Helluva way to start the month, I thought.
That’s when I noticed that a new appointment had spawned on my calendar. A 15-minute appointment with the VP of Developer Engagement and an HR person scheduled for 9:30. I had 45 minutes to prepare.
💡 Here’s a suggestion for anyone planning a layoff: Don’t do this “You’ll find out in the next 15 minutes” thing. Just rip the band-aid off and let us know with a single email.
The “second worst” 15 minutes
If you’ve been invited to a meeting to discuss your layoff, do whatever it takes to steel yourself. Whether it’s deep breathing, counting to ten, reciting your personal mantra, or firing up your “poker face”, you want to get ready to conduct yourself at the meeting with as much grace, aplomb, and professionalism as you can muster.
This is because this meeting is the second most important meeting you’ll ever have at this job. (In case you were wondering, the most important one was the interview that landed you the job in the first place.) No matter what you’re feeling at the meeting, you want your termination to be as good a breakup as possible. This means that you must handle it professionally.
The way you behave and your demeanor at this meeting will set the tone for your departure. If it is full of bitterness, acrimony, and the gnashing of teeth, they won’t be inclined to do you any favors. On the other hand, if you conduct yourself with grace and decorum, you may gain some extra concessions and a willingness on their part to do what they can for you.
What about my bonuses, ESPP, RSUs, and other non-salary compensation?
How long will my insurance coverage last? (This one’s a big deal in the United States, less so in other OECD countries.)
When do I have to return the company laptop and other gear?
What do you want me to do with my current projects and files?
Can I get a letter of recommendation and use you as a reference?
I had enough time to put on a good shirt, straighten out my “bedhead”, and did a quick “camera test,” which I saved for posterity:
Just as regular guitar playing will build calluses on your fingers that enable you to repeatedly press down on those strings without feeling like you’re running them through a wire cheese slicer, having been laid off four times previously gives you the necessary “mental calluses” to handle the meeting with stoic grace. I was mentally prepared when the call started.
I felt bad for the VP and HR person — both were in the Pacific time zone, which meant that it was 6:30 a.m. for them. On instinct, I greeted them by saying “I’m sorry you have to do this so early in the morning. I’ll try and make this easy.”
It wasn’t just the oddest Zoom call I’ve had in a while, but the oddest layoff meeting I’ve ever had. That’s probably because I was prepared and had plenty of rest, while the VP and HR person were sleep-deprived and probably had a full morning of these calls. I met regularly with the VP and have even met the HR person a couple of times, so I knew them as people rather than as randos who happened to work at the same place as me. They were more misty-eyed than I was, which while awkward, showed that they empathized.
At one point, the HR person was tearing up, and I felt for them. I stopped and took a moment to say “Everything will be all right. Don’t worry.” And I meant it.
Your first instinct might be to immediately take all the standard job search actions the moment after you’ve been laid off. Fight it. You need a little time to deal with what just happened.
This is going to sound terribly woo-woo new-agey, but I’m going to say it because it’s an important step: at your first opportunity, get away from whatever you’re doing, get out and go for a walk. Physical activity is a key part of this step, so don’t get into a motorized vehicle. You want to get moving, and you want to do it outside, preferably in your own neighborhood.
The walk is important because it gets you away from anything work-like and gives you a chance to clear your head. It gives you a chance to come down from one of the most stressful experiences you’ll ever face in your working life and come to terms with what’s happened. It is not the time for figuring out what your immediate next steps are. It’s the time to collect yourself so that you’re in a better position to figure out what your next steps are.
Don’t do the walk in a fugue state. Take note of your surroundings. Chances are you’ll see things that you passed by every day but never noticed before. This is good, because it’s preparation for what you’re going to be doing for the next little while: seeing things differently.
I went on a ride — this time, without a podcast or audiobook playing; just me and the outside world. I made my way to Spaddy’s Coffee to sit and enjoy the scenery:
I also enjoyed a coffee and checked my messages, which were beginning to come in:
I also found out who else got cut, which included a number of superstars on my team.
It was then that I noticed that because it was a chilly day, I’d put on a fleece that had been shipped to me only the week before — by my now-former employer:
As I said, it had arrived only the week before, so this was my first time wearing it. It’s nice and warm, it looks good, and hey, it’s a Patagonia! Maybe I won’t include it in the upcoming “swag purge.” Maybe I can cover the now-former employer’s logo with a patch. Does anyone have a patch they’d like to send me?
It was a far more productive way to spend the evening, and far more fun than wallowing in self-pity at home. It also gave me a chance to let some key people know that I was back on the market, which is one of the most important things to do after getting laid off.
A sleepless night
I will confess that after going to bed that evening, I woke up at 4:36 a.m. and was unable to get back to sleep. Even a five-timer isn’t immune to the stress and anxiety that comes with a layoff. I very quietly got out of bed, went to my office and…
Did a little housekeeping on my personal computers (a PowerBook, a Wintel gaming laptop, and a couple of Raspberry Pis),
Unfollowed the now-former employer on various social media, unsubscribed from their newsletters, and put their swag into a big bag that I’ll drop off at Goodwill next week, and
I know that it’s tempting to enhance your “LinkedIn glamor shots” with AI, but you’ll still get better results with a human professional photographer than Midjourney, as this actual pic from LinkedIn demonstrates.
Here’s the “official unofficial” list of tech, entrepreneur, and nerd events for Tampa Bay and surrounding areas for the week of Monday, August 7 through Sunday, August 13, 2023.
On Monday evening, a new group — The Bot Brains – AI Enthusiasts of St. Pete — is holding their first meetup:
Come join us at a new brewery every week for beers and a lively discussion around AI. Come prepared to speak about your favor AI topics, new developments in AI, and AI business ideas. This week we’ll be trying The Brutalist.
On Tuesday morning, Computer Coach — by way of the Front End Creatives, Career Success Academy, Tampa Cybersecurity Training, and Tech Success Network meetup groups — will hold an online session called How to Get The Most Out of Networking. An excerpt from the description:
During the workshop, our expert facilitator will guide you through the essential steps for successful networking. You’ll learn how to identify the right people to network with, how to make meaningful connections, and how to build lasting relationships that can benefit your career.
You’ll also gain valuable insights into the latest networking trends and strategies, and learn how to leverage social media and other digital tools to expand your network and reach new opportunities.
This workshop is ideal for professionals at any stage of their career who want to enhance their networking skills and achieve greater success in their professional lives. Whether you are looking to build new connections or deepen existing ones, this workshop will provide you with the tools and knowledge you need to succeed.
On Thursday evening, I’ll be speaking at the Tampa Java User Group, where my topic will have it all: Kotlin development, authorization in APIs, Spring Boot, learning unfamiliar frameworks, and landing a job during a pandemic.
Also on Thursday evening, only a couple of blocks away from the Tampa Java User Group meetup, will be Tampa Bay Women in Agile’s Agile Rooftop Networking Event.
It’s our last event of the summer. Let’s finish with some cold cocktails on an Ybor City rooftop. Expect great views, high energy, fun ice breakers, and some lean beer style conversations. Come meet, learn, and grow with your fellow Tampa Bay agile community. Cheers!
How do I put this list together? It’s largely automated. I have a collection of Python scripts in a Jupyter Notebook that scrape Meetup and Eventbrite for events in categories that I consider to be “tech,” “entrepreneur,” and “nerd.” The result is a checklist that I review. I make judgement calls and uncheck any items that I don’t think fit on this list.
In addition to events that my scripts find, I also manually add events when their organizers contact me with their details.
What goes into this list? I prefer to cast a wide net, so the list includes events that would be of interest to techies, nerds, and entrepreneurs. It includes (but isn’t limited to) events that fall under any of these categories:
Programming, DevOps, systems administration, and testing
Tech project management / agile processes
Video, board, and role-playing games
Book, philosophy, and discussion clubs
Tech, business, and entrepreneur networking events
Toastmasters (because nerds really need to up their presentation game)
Sci-fi, fantasy, and other genre fandoms
Self-improvement, especially of the sort that appeals to techies